Socially we’ve become incredibly accepting and understanding of individuals that quit and giving second, third, even fourth chances to welcome them back.

This episode examines a few of the beliefs as to why we quit, when it’s ok to quit, when it’s not ok to quit and what we can do to prevent quitting or, in a specific case, prevent a divorce.

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Selected Links from the Episode

• Job Hopping Is the ‘New Normal’ for Millennials: Three Ways to Prevent a Human Resource Nightmare by Jeanne Meister
• 5 Ways To Avoid Divorce by Delia Lloyd
• How To Quit Being A Quitter by Next Avenue
• 5 Valid Reasons to Be a Quitter by Joanne Clark
• 90% of businesses fail by Neil Patel
• Number of times Donald Trump has been bankrupt
• Anna Nicole Smith’s Husband and the story for his estate
• Learning how to be a better listener
• Becoming a beter responder

Show Notes

• Why do we quit? [02:13]
• An alternative to quitting is by changing direction  [02:49]
• Quitting versus changing direction [03:06]
• Quitting is completely cutting off ties [03:13]
• Changing directions is not necessarily quitting, but rather pivoting and continuing towards the main goal or purpose [03:34]
• Quitting your company, but staying in the say field is simply changing direction, not actually quitting [04:27]
• Having a millennium outlook on change of employment [05:13]
• It’s easier to just start over again [06:45]
• We’re not comfortable so it’s just easier to start all over again [09:04]
• Learning to be comfortable when we’re not comfortable [09:12]
• Sport video games and the restart button [09:19]
• Rather have everything perfect than to have something setup less than ideal [12:19]
• We are socially accepting of people that quit and  [12:41]
• We are mesmerized by people that persevere [12:51]
• Society loves giving second, third and fourth chances — We love the underdog [12:58]
• The story of an individual who was a train-wreck and given a second chance despite the obvious screwup [13:18]
• There’s a perception that it’s in your favor to be a screw up and then building yourself back up  [16:59]
• When is it ok to quit? [19:01]
• Quitting is a four-letter word [19:31]
• It is ok to quit when it is detrimental to your family and personal wellbeing [19:41]
• Some things we wish we could quit and other things we quit too easily [20:00]
• You do not have to do everything alone [20:45]
• When is it not ok to quit? [21:08]
• Divorce is not ok [21:38]
• The amazing unique story of Jesse’s grandparents and their relationship [22:04]
• The story of Jesse’s grandparents and their relationship staying together every day for over 50 years [22:04]
• Jesse’s parents, how they met and their unique story of taking the ring back and still getting married and together for over 34 years [26:26]
• Not everything is perfect, not everything is rosy, but you can make it work by being committed to each other [28:57]
• Divorce seems as common as going to Starbucks [29:42]
• Divorce almost feels like an expected [29:59]
• The Prenup [30:14]
• Marriage should be about love [31:08]
• Anna Nicole Smith and her marriage to her rich elderly husband [31:15]
• The individuals that end up getting in divorce, Jesse asks the question, “What did you get married?” [32:00]
• No one says you have to get married [32:27]
• Interesting outside thoughts and opinions on divorce and quitting [33:21]
• Challenge the social and societal pressures when it comes to divorce and quitting [34:32]
• You do you [34:38]
• A caveat to You do you is take your god damn time. [34:56]
• You need to test and vet everything [35:07]
• Get beyond the lust part of your relationship [36:42]
• Experience some tough times with your relationship before making it permanent [36:59]
• There’s always exceptions to the rules [38:58]
• You need to learn to communicate both listening and talking [40:32]
• If you talk more than you listen, you’re talking too much [41:37]
• God gave you two ears and only one mouth [41:51]
• The sooner that you can talk about something, and get it off your chest, the less venom there will be [42:57]
• Get your emotions out, get beyond the emotions and then get to the point you’re trying to get to [43:41]
• Get your emotions out, get beyond the emotions and then get to the point you’re trying to get to [43:41]

People Mentioned

• Fran Liebman
• Jeanne Meister
• Neil Patel
• Donald Trump
• Erik Weiss
• Anna Nicole Smith
• Delia Lloyd
• Next Avenue
• Joanne Clark